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If you can discover your purpose and live it out, you will be living almost by instinct and will be doing what you were created to do

How To Discover Your Life’s Purpose Part 2

In a previous post, I set out the 3 steps that I believe you must take in order to discover your purpose. In this post, I will discuss the meaning of purpose, as it relates to your life’s purpose.

What is Purpose?

The Macquarie Dictionary defines purpose as:

“the object for which anything exists or is done, made, used, etc.”

Application of The Definition

If you use an object for its intended purpose, the object usually works well. But, if you try to use the object for a purpose for which it is not designed, it will either not work at all, or will not work very well.

A toaster is specifically designed to toast bread, and other similar products. But, if you tried to make a cup of coffee using the toaster, it would not work at all. Similarly, if you used a butter knife to spread suitably softened butter onto bread, it would work very well. But if you tried to use the butter knife to cut steak, it may go some way towards cutting the meat, but it wouldn’t work particularly well.

I believe the same applies to people. If a person is trying to work and live outside their purpose, they will not do as well as someone who is working and living out their purpose. A person who discovers and lives out their purpose does the thing they were made to do, and usually does it very well.

Society teaches us to rely on our knowledge rather than our instinct. So, many people end up living out their lives relying almost entirely on knowledge, rather than instinct, and never discover, and live out their purpose. This can lead to discouragement, disillusionment, and depression.

Other Descriptions of Purpose

Pastor, author and filmmaker, TD Jakes, describes this purpose as being much like an instinct. It comes naturally to you — something you are wired to do. He says that if you can combine your instinct with your intellect, you will obtain happiness and fulfilment.

Nutritionist and author Shawn Stevenson describes what I am referring to as a “superpower”. He says that your “superpower” is a unique gift or talent that only you possess.

If you can discover and live out your purpose, you will be able to live almost by instinct, and will enjoy the life you were created to live, obtaining maximum happiness and fulfilment.

If you would like to know more about how to discover your life’s purpose, please reach out to me. If you feel that someone you know may benefit from this post, please do share it with them.

I promise, it really is possible to discover your life's purpose

How To Discover Your Life’s Purpose

If you ask people if they know what their life’s purpose is, you're likely to only receive answers from a few. It's common to feel dissatisfied with life and to believe that your life lacks purpose and meaning. But I promise, it really is possible to discover your life’s purpose.

In this article, I provide 3 steps you can take to discover your life’s purpose. If you would like help working through these steps, please contact me.

What is Purpose?

The Macquarie Dictionary defines purpose as:

“the object for which anything exists or is done, made, used, etc.”

I believe this definition applies just as much to human beings as it does to objects.

Why go to the trouble of Discovering Your Purpose?

I firmly believe that If you discover your purpose, you will discover the thing you are made to do. If you live out your purpose, You will enjoy the life you were created to live, and be your happiest and most fulfilled.

How To Discover Your Purpose

I believe that there are three steps that you need to take to discover your purpose. They are:

  1. Examine your present
  2. Examine your past, and
  3. Examine your passions or dreams

Examining Your Present

Examining your present is vital because it shows you where you are, much like the “You Are Here” arrow on a map. Like navigating with a map or GPS, you need to know where you are before you can decipher how to get where you want to go.

Wen examining your present:

  • reflect on as many areas of your life as possible, such as career, relationships, environment, hobbies and interests, values, faith, and finances
  • pay particular attention to what is working for you right now and what isn’t
  • consider why each thing or area of life is or is not working, and what you would like to change.

Examining your past

If you look at your past from the outside, through the eyes of a keen observer, you will notice patterns of thought, reactions to various situations, likes, dislikes, and preferences. If you examine your past with a reflective, questioning mind, you will begin to see the “why” behind some of these patterns, which will point you towards your purpose.

When examining your past:

  • reflect on as many areas of your life as possible (see above for examples)
  • pay particular attention to what worked for you and what didn’t
  • consider why each thing or area of life did or didn’t work, and what you would have liked to change.

Examining Your Passions and Dreams

Your passions can give you insight into what your purpose might be, and your dreams can give you clues about how you might like to live out your purpose.

When examining your passions and dreams, reflect upon questions such as:

  • what do you cry about, or what breaks your heart?
  • what, if you did it every day, would cause you to wake up with excitement and enthusiasm?
  • what makes you want to jump for joy, even just thinking about it?
  • what have you always wanted to do or be?

If you need help working through these steps, please contact me.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to accomplish your life’s dream alone

Personal Development for Career Professionals

In my last few posts, I’ve been covering the questions you need to ask about your dream to see if it is worth following. My question for this post is, have you included the people you need to realise your dream?

“It marks a big step in your development when you come to realise that other people can help you do a better job than you can do alone” – Andrew Carnegie

“A dream is a compelling vision you see in your heart that’s too big to accomplish without the help of others” – Chris Hodges.

I think that, one of the hardest things for some people to do is ask for help in achieving their dreams. It’s certainly the case with me.

When I started my first business, I was surrounded by a wonderful community of people who were very ready and willing to help me. But I rarely called on them, and only asked for help when I was really stuck. For some reason, I felt that I had to build my business all by myself.

When I started my current business, there were a number of things that I had to do which I found difficult, including dealing with the visual side of social media, and building a website. Being totally blind, pictures pose quite a challenge for me. I’d waste hours trying to get a picture the right size for a particular purpose, such as for use in a twitter or Facebook header, and then find out that I’d posted it sideways or upside-down!

I decided I needed some coaching on this with a good friend and mentor. She helped me realise that there was no shame in asking for help, particularly in an area in which I didn’t have the skill required for the task. After some discussion, I realised that many people, both blind and sighted, call upon others to help them do things that they may not have the skill or the time to do themselves. My friend pointed out that I had no trouble having a cleaner clean my house, as I’m not good at it, and it takes me a long time. So what was the difference in asking someone to help me with the visual side of my website, or resize pictures for posting on twitter?

This invaluable coaching session has now saved me much wasted time, which is much better used on doing things that I am good at in my business. I still occasionally fall into the trap of wanting to do picture-related things by myself, as the problem solving part of my brain kicks in and says “surely, there must be a way”. However, I’m only wasting minutes now, instead of hours, before I realise that I need to ask for help.

I am blessed to have wonderful friends and mentors who are willing to help me in achieving my dream, and am so grateful that I was open to learning the lesson of asking for help. Who do you need to include in realising your dream? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.

Can You See Your Dream Clearly?

Moving from Corporate to Business

In recent posts, I’ve been covering questions that you can aske to see whether a dream is worth pursuing. This post will cover the clarity question i.e. do you see your dream clearly?

Mike Hyatt, the president and CEO of Thomas Nelson, Inc., once said:

“What you need is a vision that is so big that it is compelling, not only to others, but to you. If it’s not compelling, you won’t have the motivation to stay the course, and you won’t be able to recruit others to help you. … If you have a clear vision, you will eventually attract the right strategy. If you don’t have a clear vision, no strategy will save you.”

When I first joined the John Maxwell team, I didn’t have a clear vision. It was very broad. I knew I wanted to make a difference in people’s lives through coaching, training and speaking, but that was all I knew.

It wasn’t until some time later that I got a clear vision of what I wanted to do. I was thinking back to when I was going through the redundancy process, and how lost i felt. I didn’t know what to do first, or who to turn to for advice. I also felt unwanted and devalued.

As I was thinking about this, I realised what I wanted to do. I wanted to help people who were going through a similar situation to the one I had gone through. I also wanted to help people who had decided that they wanted to change their job, but weren’t sure what to do next.

As my thoughts became clear, I got this feeling in the pit of my stomach. It was a mixture of excitement and expectation, and I wanted to run out and tell someone that I knew what I wanted to do!

While I didn’t immediately have a complete start to finish strategy, I knew what I had to start with. I had to find the people who I wanted to help, and let them know what I could do for them.

Every time I took a new step towards my dream, the next step would become clear to me. I also found that I was able to more clearly articulate what I wanted to do to my friends, family and colleagues, who gave me a much more positive response than when I told them that I “wanted to make a difference”.

Can you see your dream clearly? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.