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How to Build Your Self-Belief

Personal Development for Career Professionals

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval”, Mark Twain.

I spoke in my last post about how comparing myself to others lowered my self-belief, and caused me to stop doing the things that I needed to do. I realised from that experience, and others, that my main weakness, and the main obstacle to my personal and business growth, is my self-belief. I have started to work hard on this, and so it is a topic that is dear to my heart.

There are many different ways to grow self-belief. It’s just a matter of finding which one, or few, work best. Different methods may work better at different times and in different circumstances.
Some methods I use to build my self-belief include:

• Reading about people who are on a similar journey to me, and who have found success;

• Listening to Ted Talks;

• Pondering on inspirational quotes;

• Reading books by, and watching videos of people who inspire me;

• Talking to my mentors;

• Spending time with positive people;

• Reciting daily affirmations;

• Reading encouraging verses from the Bible; and

• Imagining myself succeeding at the things I want to do.

I find the last 3 of these methods to be particularly powerful. I think that this is because they focus directly on my imagination, and as I said in my last post, the brain doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality.
What do you do to improve your self-belief and thought life?

If I can help in any way, please let me know in the comments section or, if you prefer, contact me directly.

Are You in Your Right Mind?

Personal Development for Career Professionals

No, I’m not asking if you’re insane, I’m asking about your thought life. Our thoughts govern our emotions, and our emotions govern our actions. So, our thought life ultimately affects our whole life.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”, Proverbs 23:7

Did you know that the brain doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality? Observe what is happening in your body the next time you are afraid, or really worried about something. It’s almost as if the thing is actually happening to you. I used to panic about my family members dying. My heart would race, my breathing rate would increase, and I would cry, just as if they were really dying in front of me.

On the flip side, this is why athletes spend a lot of time imagining themselves winning. When an athlete imagines themselves winning, the same chemical processes are going on in their brain as if they were actually winning. This builds the athlete’s belief in themselves and their ability to win, and thus affects their emotions, and physical exertion.

One of the greatest enemies of self-belief and positive self-esteem is comparing ourselves to others. I experienced this in my business. I would constantly be comparing myself to others – how much they were selling, and how much money they were making. I would become miserable, as I was not matching them, as I thought I should be. I would begin to doubt my abilities, and would lose any motivation I had to do anything to build my business, as I felt that there was no point. Thus, my business would not grow.

Earl Nightingale says that we are all created uniquely, with unique talents and abilities, and that we therefore should not compare our journey to that of others, as it is unique to us. This has been such a revelation to me, and has released me to concentrate only on what I am doing, rather than looking at what others are doing and making a pointless comparison.
What do you think about yourself? Do you believe that you deserve the good things that happen to you? Do you really believe deep down that you deserve success? Do you believe that your dreams could come true?

I will cover how to build self-belief in my next post.