Is Your Job Making You Miserabl? don’t talk about it on social media

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I thought I’d write a few blog posts about what you can do if your job makes you miserable. If you’d rather see the Facebook live video of this content, click here

I wanted to write these posts because so many people are miserable in their jobs. I know I was. Now, thankfully, I’m in a job that I love.

If your job makes you miserable, don’t post about it on social media. Seriously, don’t!

You never know who might see that tweet about how much you don’t like your boss, or that rant on Facebook about how much you hate your job. A friend of your boss might see that post, and pass it on!

If you are applying for jobs, this is particularly important, as there is nothing to stop a potential future employer from checking your social media profiles to see what sort of person you are. You wouldn’t want a future employer to decide not to employ you because they’ve seen a social media post from you complaining about your current job or employer. That future employer wouldn’t want you doing that about them!

If you want to tell someone about how miserable you are in your job, tell your best friend, or your dog, or cat, or pet lizard, or whatever pet you have. Pets are so wonderful aren’t they? You can cry on their shoulders, or tell them anything, and they’ll keep your secrets.

In my next blog post, I’ll offer some tips about who you can tell. Until then, have a great day and #DoWhatYouLove

Don’t make the mistake of trying to accomplish your life’s dream alone

Personal Development for Career Professionals

In my last few posts, I’ve been covering the questions you need to ask about your dream to see if it is worth following. My question for this post is, have you included the people you need to realise your dream?

“It marks a big step in your development when you come to realise that other people can help you do a better job than you can do alone” – Andrew Carnegie

“A dream is a compelling vision you see in your heart that’s too big to accomplish without the help of others” – Chris Hodges.

I think that, one of the hardest things for some people to do is ask for help in achieving their dreams. It’s certainly the case with me.

When I started my first business, I was surrounded by a wonderful community of people who were very ready and willing to help me. But I rarely called on them, and only asked for help when I was really stuck. For some reason, I felt that I had to build my business all by myself.

When I started my current business, there were a number of things that I had to do which I found difficult, including dealing with the visual side of social media, and building a website. Being totally blind, pictures pose quite a challenge for me. I’d waste hours trying to get a picture the right size for a particular purpose, such as for use in a twitter or Facebook header, and then find out that I’d posted it sideways or upside-down!

I decided I needed some coaching on this with a good friend and mentor. She helped me realise that there was no shame in asking for help, particularly in an area in which I didn’t have the skill required for the task. After some discussion, I realised that many people, both blind and sighted, call upon others to help them do things that they may not have the skill or the time to do themselves. My friend pointed out that I had no trouble having a cleaner clean my house, as I’m not good at it, and it takes me a long time. So what was the difference in asking someone to help me with the visual side of my website, or resize pictures for posting on twitter?

This invaluable coaching session has now saved me much wasted time, which is much better used on doing things that I am good at in my business. I still occasionally fall into the trap of wanting to do picture-related things by myself, as the problem solving part of my brain kicks in and says “surely, there must be a way”. However, I’m only wasting minutes now, instead of hours, before I realise that I need to ask for help.

I am blessed to have wonderful friends and mentors who are willing to help me in achieving my dream, and am so grateful that I was open to learning the lesson of asking for help. Who do you need to include in realising your dream? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.

Can You See Your Dream Clearly?

Moving from Corporate to Business

In recent posts, I’ve been covering questions that you can aske to see whether a dream is worth pursuing. This post will cover the clarity question i.e. do you see your dream clearly?

Mike Hyatt, the president and CEO of Thomas Nelson, Inc., once said:

“What you need is a vision that is so big that it is compelling, not only to others, but to you. If it’s not compelling, you won’t have the motivation to stay the course, and you won’t be able to recruit others to help you. … If you have a clear vision, you will eventually attract the right strategy. If you don’t have a clear vision, no strategy will save you.”

When I first joined the John Maxwell team, I didn’t have a clear vision. It was very broad. I knew I wanted to make a difference in people’s lives through coaching, training and speaking, but that was all I knew.

It wasn’t until some time later that I got a clear vision of what I wanted to do. I was thinking back to when I was going through the redundancy process, and how lost i felt. I didn’t know what to do first, or who to turn to for advice. I also felt unwanted and devalued.

As I was thinking about this, I realised what I wanted to do. I wanted to help people who were going through a similar situation to the one I had gone through. I also wanted to help people who had decided that they wanted to change their job, but weren’t sure what to do next.

As my thoughts became clear, I got this feeling in the pit of my stomach. It was a mixture of excitement and expectation, and I wanted to run out and tell someone that I knew what I wanted to do!

While I didn’t immediately have a complete start to finish strategy, I knew what I had to start with. I had to find the people who I wanted to help, and let them know what I could do for them.

Every time I took a new step towards my dream, the next step would become clear to me. I also found that I was able to more clearly articulate what I wanted to do to my friends, family and colleagues, who gave me a much more positive response than when I told them that I “wanted to make a difference”.

Can you see your dream clearly? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.

Are You Compelled To Follow Your Dream?

Moving from Corporate to Business

In my last post, I asked if you had a dream, and mentioned that there were 10 questions that you could ask yourself to determine whether your dream is worth pursuing. This post will deal with one of those questions which is, the question of passion, i.e. does your dream compel you to follow it?

In his book, “Put Your Dream To The Test”, John Maxwell defines passion as:

”… an enthusiasm that not only gives you energy and focus in the present, but also gives you power to keep moving toward the future. It gives you fuel to pursue your dream.”

When I started my first business, after being made redundant, I thought that it was my passion. Everything was all shiny, new and exciting, and I had a great time. However, when things got tough, when I couldn’t find customers and didn’t meet my sales goals, I would get terribly discouraged and would stop working in my business.

One christmas, I got together with a colleague and arranged a product launch. Between us, we invited about 100 people to the launch, but only a handful turned up. I was so upset, that I didn’t do any work in my business for over a week, and considered quitting altogether!

After doing some soul searching last year, I came to the conclusion that, while I loved the products, and enjoyed sharing them with others, it really wasn’t enough to keep me going, particularly when times were tough. I also discovered that my main motivation for continuing with the business was so that people wouldn’t say to me “I told you you’d never succeed at that”. I still exclusively use the products, and am always recommending them to others, but it’s not my passion.

However, in my current business, when things don’t go the way I want, I may still get discouraged for a few hours. But, sometimes I don’t get discouraged at all, and I’m increasingly seeing these times as opportunities to learn, or change direction.

In my first business, i used to toss and turn at night, and try and figure out how I could get more sales. In my current business, I wake suddenly from a sound sleep, with a great idea for a new blog post, or a revelation about how I can better serve my customers. Sometimes I get so excited that I can’t get back to sleep!

It’s almost like my passion won’t let me give up! It’s what keeps me going through the tough times, towards the success of achieving my dream.

Are you passionate about your dream? Does it compel you to follow it? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.